Unequally yoked

Yesterday, I attended an event (for Christians) & 1 of the topics discussed was whether a Christian should get together with a non-Christian.

Well, personally, for myself, it's a big NO NO! It is a most difficult situation and being a female, it is worse (why do all guys expect the ladies to give way?! - some of the guys actually said that if the girl loves you, she will follow...what about the other way around?).
The difference in values & background is very trying if eventually, they do get married. I'm already feeling the persecution & oppression from my parents (who are not Christians), can you imagine a lifetime of that (some more double the amount becoz of your in-laws). Anyway, even if I feel like I'm beginning to like someone (好感) who's a non-Christian, I will not even let anything begin. I will pray for GOD's help to cut off this bondage. I believe GOD will honour one's commitment to be obedient.

Of course, there were questions on what if you have already reached the stage when you're about to get married. In the first place, one should not lead the other on that far (even in the hope that the person will become a Christian), i.e. not even begin. Also, it is on dangerous grounds. Firstly, wanting the person to convert becomes a selfish motive (so that you can get together). We call it evangelistic dating. Secondly, it's hard to tell if the person converted because of you or truly believes in GOD. If 1 day, things don't work out, will that person draw away from GOD, especially if he/she entered the faith on the a wrong footing?
Hence, never take that risk. It is harmful to both parties.

I've seen instances where people start to draw away from GOD because of being unequally yoked. They tend to feel some shame & guilt that they disobeyed (that's why they draw away), which they will carry on into their lives. It's sad, but we are not to judge them. They are only answerable to GOD. As always, love the sinner but not the sin.

Of course, there are grey areas where the 2 persons are already together but 1 of them converts (I think some people, though believes, hesitate in converting because of that), whether as a dating or married couple. Well, I guess you are not forced to break up, esp. if married, coz it was in a time of "ignorance". GOD honours marriages for you have taken the vow. However if the non-Christian leaves you because of that, well...I don't have the answers. (Hey, some may even use it as an excuse!) The leaving party should not blame GOD for that. They made the choice.
Anyway, I know that I can't answer that coz I'm already a Christian, and of course I'll find someone who's a committed Christian as well. Only GOD has the answer.

I would rather live without an earthly partner rather than an eternity without GOD (of course I hope to marry a Christian lah!).

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