Old-fashioned, Reserved Me

I recently discovered (ok ok, not really "discovered" but have known it all along) that I'm quite conservative, or rather should I say "old-fashioned" in my views of courtship. Before anyone jumps to any conclusion, I'm just reflecting here after seeing a friend embark on a relationship, and his relatively short journey on reaching that point.

Hey, I'm really happy for him and from all the description and comments from other friends, I think I have "good vibes" (a phrase a friend used) about his new girlfriend. Can't wait to meet her. Well, JL, if you ever read this post, all the best! Don't mind my "conservative" remarks coz am rather old-fashioned in my thinking lah.

Anyway, this post is basically about how I view things, so I shall start. (Actually, I believe there are a lot who thinks the same way as me!)

I think it boils down to my personality. I'm a rather reserved kind of person and am somehow schooled in the old-fashioned views of relationships and courtship. Being a bit "slower" and "cautious" in nature also contributes. So what are my views?

Well, I always think that guys should make the first move (as I think many girls still do). A girl may drop hints, but a guy should be the one who asks. Ok, I admit I'm the reserved kind, but I believe a girl has a lot more to lose if it doesn't turn out well. It could be social pressure, but still...I believe a guy can make a firmer representation of themselves and move on faster. I think it's the way they work. Girls usually take a longer time to recover. I don't think I will ever take the initiative of telling a guy I like him first, even if I really like him a lot. Somehow, I can't overcome that barrier (fear?). Another logic is that as a guy, if he's not taking the initiative, then probably he's not that into me. Hmm...the only problem is I'm also not good at dropping hints. Haha...

Well, from the speed of my friend's attachment (is it 2 weeks?), I think I prefer a slower pace. Not too slow lah, but spacing out each meeting, like maybe once a week for a start is a good pace. Even my friend admits he doesn't know how to slow it down a little now. I take quite a while to warm up to people, so I need more time. Cautious, I guess.

About the "public displays of affection", I am conservative in this aspect. I think the furthest for me is to hold hands/arms in public. I feel very embarassed when I see some couples on trains these days...I don't know where to look by the way how some of them behave.

I guess I have a few other things but they are not coming to mind when I'm typing this, so I shall stop here.