I happen to think about this. It was probably due to "The Ugly Truth", which led me to recall "He's Just Not That Into You". It's about how guys, if they are really into you, they will want to "reserve you" by making a commitment (as depicted in the book and stipulated by my guy friends). This inevitably made me think of the analogy that this was just like placing reservations at a restaurant.
Scenario 1:
Say you do a walk-in at a restaurant without any reservations, there is no guarantee that there would be a seat for you. The whole experience would turn out different. You might need to queue quite a while and well, what you intended to eat might get sold out or the food less fresh. Even if you managed to get a seat, it might not be a seat you'll really like.
Scenario 2:
Let's say you made a reservation. However, you're late and the restaurant would only hold your reservation for 15 minutes. So that's it, you lose your reservation and got to start queuing again. Making a reservation doesn't guarantee you'll get your seat unless you make the point to be there on time and make a real commitment.
Scenario 3:
Let's say you wait till the last minute to make a reservation. However, the restaurant is already fully booked, so you missed your chance.
Well, just some thoughts.
9 years ago
This is a very interesting thought. Would be great if you could expound further! Would love to hear more of your thoughts on this. =)
ReplyDeleteFor instance, what exactly do you mean by a guy wanting to "reserve" someone?
"reserve" would mean wanting to claim "ownership" like asking the girl to be his girlfriend or announcing that she is, so that others should 'stay away'. This would be the stage of "placing reservations".
ReplyDeleteIf we go further in the analogy to the part of placing orders and eating the meal or even footing the bill, then that would be considered moving on to a later stage of the relationship where I think it would get more cmoplicated.
Ah, ok. I re-read your post after seeing your comment and everything made much more sense to me after that.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your definition of "reserve" and agree that most guys would definitely like to "reserve" a girl whom they are interested in.
However, the problem lies in the fact that "reserving" a girl they like isn't anywhere near as simple as placing a reservation at a restaurant.
To reserve at a restaurant, all you need to do is call really early and make sure you turn up on time...and you're almost certain of getting what you want. Nothing really difficult in that.
However, to "reserve" a girl is far more complex. There is always a possibility that despite your best efforts, you may still not be successful.
Just my thoughts (from a guy's perspective).
However, to "reserve" a girl is far more complex. There is always a possibility that despite your best efforts, you may still not be successful.
ReplyDeleteOk, maybe I'm assuming there are some mutual feelings on both parties. Obviously the 2 must have spent some time together before moving on to that possibility.
But maybe that leads to another scenario. E.g. you call and it turns out the restaurant is closed, or re-located (change of numbers?).
oh, another possible scenario would be that the restaurant doesn't take reservations.
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